On encountering the death of a loved one -Words to say, Feelings to Convey

Someone in my family passed away recently. We weren’t close, we barely talked to each other, but at the end of the day, she was family. And it reminded me that life is really fragile. We wouldn’t even be looking and someone who was there yesterday might not be there today.  When faced with loss, it truly hits us in the face that life is unpredictable. You don’t know what awaits you the next day. And sometimes we begin to doubt ourselves, start to regret things. Maybe we should have let them known that we loved them. Maybe we should have told them the things we were fighting over are not that important. Maybe we should have talked more often; maybe I should have apologised when I had the chance, maybe, maybe, maybe. After they are gone all we are left with is maybe. But that one loss reminds us that we shouldn’t repeat the same mistakes with the rest of our friends and family. That one loss might leave us with regrets but it will also help us make sure we don’t make the same mistakes again.

There is a really famous quote from the book “The Still Point of The Turning World” by Emily Rapp, which says “If we remembered every day that we could lose someone at any moment, we would love them more fiercely and freely, and without fear- not because there is nothing to lose, but because everything can be lost.” And I understood these words before, understood the concept of this, but they never really registered fully in my head before this. This loss made me realise exactly what this quote is trying to convey. This loss made me realise that the people I love might not always be there. It made me realise that in the game of life and death, death always wins. We can’t even comprehend how fast life can slip out of our hands. It made me realise that it is important to that our family knows that they are loved. That no matter what happens, we will always love them and whatever petty fights we have going on with our family, it’s not worth it. It made me realise that we should apologise when we have the chance because we don’t know when it might become too late to say anything.


Hold on to the people you love with all that you are worth. Show them that you love them with all your heart and soul. Show them that they are appreciated. Show them that no matter what, you got their back. Resolve your issues. Let go of your anger and apologise. A sorry doesn’t make you smaller. Reach out to those people who are no longer in your life, because one day you might not get the chance. We already have too many regrets in life; don’t make not talking to the people you love into one.

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